Stage Five: Negotiating with your Travel Buddy

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All the pieces are coming together, you have a plan of where you are going and how long it will take. Now you have booked the first ticket and its all starting to sink in, unreal isn’t it? However what some people miss is talking with their travel buddy about what you are going to do when you get there. This has caught me out a few times in my travel youth and what I mean by caught out is that my travel ideas and their travels ideas don’t mesh, believe when I tell you that it gets awkward very very quickly.

Now I hear some of you go “Why travel with someone if your travel ideas don’t mesh” well my waywards it is circumstantial. This person might be the only one keen to travel and have the funds to do so, or they are your other half who wants to have an adventure but their likes and dislikes are different. Are you really going restrict your chances to travel by this small obstacle? I know that some of you are happy to travel solo, but I know myself and others included like to have a companion to share it with.

Whatever the reason, you have a travel buddy and you have just discovered that they want to quite different things to what you had in mind. Well don’t stress I am here to give you tips on how to negotiate with your travel buddy.

  1. Talk with your buddy about the attractions they want to see, you can establish very quickly if there is anything that you might want to see.
  2. Tell them about the places you want to visit and gauge how they react, because if they seem interested or even excited you know how the negotiations will go.
  3. Discuss time limits, you might only have a week in a certain place and if it not discussed now either one of you could possibly miss out on what you want to do.
  4. If you find that they like things completely different to you, then organize places to meet up and then go off and do your own thing. It works quite well because you have lots to talk about when you meet back up.
  5. Count to 3, If you sadly find that your travel buddy is kind of driving you up the wall then you need to work on counting. This is for when you really want to just yell in their face or be brutally honest about something. This trick helps you express yourself clearer as you have taken the time to think about what you are going to say, rather than spilling out every thought and reaction, when then leaves you in an awkward situation with your travel buddy.
  6. Be smart in your negotiations. Do not go in all guns blazing and be unable to compromise, because that will leave you feeling like crap at the end of the day or even worse on bad terms with your buddy. Make a list of the places that you will not budge from seeing and then a list of ones that you know you can leave for another adventure.

So what do you think about these tips? I have used every single of one of them when I have ended with someone that who doesn’t have the same tastes as me. Please, don’t ruin your adventure because you can’t work with your travel buddy! they are after experiences just as you are!

To awesome communication!!

Zoe

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